I just discovered the term “spectrumslide” as an alternative to the term “genderbend” and I REALLY think people should start using it and loving it as much as I do. It takes into account both the gender and sex spectrums, so not only is it not transphobic, it also is a lot more interesting and fun to experiment with.
since my little post about being autochorissexual has inexplicably exploded 260+ notes in the past couple of days (seriously what the heck happened here), i think maybe a follow-up post is in order.
i did not invent the word autochorissexual. Anthony F. Bogaert did. he’s the guy who literally wrote the book on asexuality. Dr. Bogaert is not himself asexual but is one of the few sciencey people doing sciencey research on people who are, so that’s cool. i got the word autochorissexual from his article Asexuality and Autochorissexualism (Identity-Less Sexuality) which is, alas, now behind a $40 paywall. i’ll paraphrase what i remember of it.
in the course of his asexuality research, Dr. Bogaert identified more than one hundred women who—all independently—described a sexual interest in sex itself but could not imagine themselves as active participants in it. the article deals only with women; i don’t know whether Bogaert observed anything similar among people who aren’t women. Bogaert describes autochorissexualism as a target-oriented paraphilia, one in which, specifically, the usual target sequence “I am attracted to [that person]” does not include the “I”. many of these women said they did masturbate while thinking about other people having sex. they did not identify as voyeurs because they did not think of themselves as observers. they considered themselves non-entities in sex, and were turned off by the thought of themselves participating in the act even as a passive observer. some women mentioned preferring porn/erotica that focused on male participants because they were less likely to personally identify with a man.
so, if anyone wants to call tumblr bullshit on this word, take it to Brock University.
also, here is the AVEN thread where Siggy links to Bogaert’s article, which is how i heard of it.
Fucking awesome. This makes enormous amounts of sense to me; I thought I was just at the “time of life” (urk), when personal interest in meatspace sexual activity had faded. Not that I’m going to claim this identity (yet), because I have most definitely been otherwise in my life. But it does add to my list of reasons that many of us are so deeply, personally, intimately invested in reading and writing M/M fic.
Updating: I was able to access the article through my university account, and uploaded it here.
holy shit there is a name for it
I identify as neither ace nor aro and I get this sometimes.
Oh my gosh there’s finally a word for “I don’t always feel it but when I do I don’t want it”!!!!
Slurs are not oppressive because they are offensive, they are oppressive because slurs by nature of being slurs draw upon certain power dynamics to remind their target of his/her/their vulnerability in a certain relation to power and as an extension of that, to threaten violence and exploitation of that vulnerability.
I really let myself go on these drawings hahahaha.
to be continued?
Alfie Enoch as Wes Gibbins in “How To Get Away With Murder” (x)
#part of me wants you to be wide-eyed and stumbling and guileless forever#and part of me wants you to quietly and inexorably become the most ruthless unflinching steel-nerved courtroom predator of all (via)